people really need to stop making fun of young trans boys who go through the “im a soft plant boy uwu” phase, who dye their hair pastel colors, who go through the space prince phase, who dresses very feminine. realizing you’re trans can be pretty tough so staying “soft” can be a good middle ground for these young boys who were previously raised feminine. making fun of young trans men that call themselves soft/soft boys is so harmful. let them find themselves, grow out of it on their own. if you consider yourself an “elder” and make fun of these kids you’re a terrible role model.
if you’re cis you can rb this just don’t speak on the subject
Some dont grow out of it! Some stay that way because that’s how they’re comfortable presenting. It doesn’t make them any less of a man.
Some even grow into it, actually. After trying to pass as cis and “fit in” by performing masculinity to the extreme, many trans men reconnect with their feminine side (cause we all have one).
Young trans men calling themselves soft and a “pretty boy uwu” isn’t harmful nor is adult trans men doing so.
It’s strange to me that dyed hair, gender ambiguity, and other “extra” aesthetics, which for so long were a huge part of the queer community are now being made fun of or sneered at or found annoying.
The phrasing of “let them grow out of it”/calling their gender expression a phase hits a bit too close to home when talking about a group that was likely told similar things about their gender identity and I’m sure it wasn’t purposeful but it’s worth pointing out.
Personally I think the world could use a few more soft space plant princes.
What’s harmful: cis people feminizing trans men for their fetish or just hating any trans men who doesn’t wear traditional masculine outfits.
What isn’t: trans men doing what they want.
(Source: faggotpeachs, via mystrothedefender)
